By Jennifer

“Clean your plate!”
How many times did you hear that as a child?
Or this, “You’re not getting any desert until you eat everything!”
How many kids are being made to feel like that have to eat everything in front of them in order to be rewarded?
This is a parenting practice that I’m firmly against (but that’s another post …)!
I tell my kids, “It’s okay to throw it away!”

Now, I’m not encouraging wastefulness. Quite the opposite, in fact. I do still fill my kids plates for them right now, but I don’t usually put a full serving. That way, if they want seconds they can have seconds. And if they get full and don’t want anymore they can be done with no repercussions. But I never, EVER make them finish everything on their plate.

Into adulthood, many grown-ups are left with the clean-your-plate mentality. This idea has led many adults into obesity from childhood.
Furthermore, many adults that have undergone bariatric surgery STILL struggle with this, leading them to many issues from the beginning such as eating too much, feelings of shame that they can’t eat “enough” and more.

Friends, I’m here to tell you: IT’S OKAY TO THROW IT AWAY.
If you are finished eating, and you are not hungry anymore, IT’S OKAY TO THROW IT AWAY!
If you take a few bites and really don’t like it, IT’S OKAY TO THROW IT AWAY!
If you’re afraid that it might have gone bad, IT’S OKAY TO THROW IT AWAY!

God created our bodies to be able to digest a certain amount of food. When we eat more than we were created to, we gain weight. That’s really true no matter what you eat (although there is a difference between 50 calories of chocolate and 50 calories of broccoli, but again … that’s another post!). If you overeat, you will gain weight eventually. Those that haven’t had bariatric surgery will also stretch out their stomachs to force them to hold more and more food. Those that HAVE had bariatric surgery can really hurt themselves, and those with the gastric band or the bypass surgeries can form what’s called a “mushroom” or “ballooning” effect where the pouch will stretch. So, any way you look at it, overeating can take it’s toll on you and the body God blessed you with!

We are told from the beginning how to treat our tummies after surgery, and I love these tips for EVERYONE, even those that haven’t had surgery:

*Eat Slow – Savor each bite. Taste the complexities in the morsel. Try to pinpoint certain flavors/textures. Do you taste salty? Sweet? Bitter? See if you can figure out what a certain ingredient might be. This is a fun game that I also use with my kids to help them slow down! It’s also helped me learn to love and appreciate the food for what it is, rather than to just eat mindlessly.

* Put Down The Fork – Okay, I know we’ve ALL heard this one before, but this time it’s in a different context. When I say put down the fork, I mean specifically in between bites. Take a bite, and put it down. Remember to savor and enjoy the food. Think about something else for a moment if you need to. Then wait a few seconds before that next bite. We’re often full LONG before we actually realize it, and many times we just eat too fast. Before we know it, we’re sliming or dumping!

* Have A Conversation – This is especially for when you go out with friends or are eating with a family member. Talk to them between bites. Ask how their day was. Tell a funny story about your own day. This won’t just help you slow down with your eating, but it will also help you forge relationships!

* When You’re Done, STOP – When you start to feel your full signal, STOP! And remember, IT’S OKAY TO THROW IT AWAY!

And one final tip that I have that the doctors won’t share –

* Pray Before You Eat – Bless your food, and ask God to help you eat mindfully, slowly and with purpose. Ask him to help you stop when it’s time and to be able to throw it away without shame when you’re done!


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