By Jennifer


As a work at home mom, I have a lot on my plate. Trying to homeschool my kids, keep the house clean, and run two businesses all while not losing my sanity is hard enough as it is. Add in events, parties, church functions, and attempting to get some down time in … and my friends wonder why I never see them.

It’s hard. Let me say that again with more conviction: IT’S HARD!!!

There are some days that I just want to throw in the towel and say, “I don’t want to do this anymore!

I get frustrated, I get burned out, I get downright angry sometimes.

And it’s my own fault. Yes, you heard me right. It’s my own fault.

You see, I suffer from a condition called, “Mommygottadoeverythingforeveryone-itis”. It’s a serious condition that affects millions of women (and a few men) across the globe. We cook, we clean, we kiss booboos, we tuck in and read bedtime stories. We make sure teeth are brushed, hair is combed, bellies are full, and bottoms are wiped. We run businesses, run households, work out side the home. We make sure our spouses are happy and our children are … well, not heathens. We try to take on the world all the while chanting the mantra, “I can do all things through Christ which strengthens me!” (Philippians 4:13) over and over again until we look up and realize … it’s been three days since I’ve showered.

Those of us who suffer from this condition aren’t always mothers. There are daughters, sons, cousins, aunts, uncles, daddies, friends, bosses, employees … I think there are more people that live with Mommygottadoeverythingforeveryone-itis than one might think.

I had to admit, much to my chagrin, a few weeks ago that … *GASP* … I CAN’T DO IT ALL.

Wait … WHAT??

Breathe… sigh…

I can’t do it all.

This goes hand in hand with life as a Bariatric patient. In order to be successful in our heath journeys,we HAVE to learn to take care of ourselves. This might mean that we have to take that leap and *GASP* ask for help (gulp).  In the beginning, it might mean asking a spouse or child to take on more responsibility around the household, or asking a friend or neighbor to come help. And later, it might mean delegating responsibilities, or maybe even just learning how to say, “no” once in a while.

Help might be physical, such as with chores, planning, or running errands. Help can also be emotional, such as counseling, a good support group, or even a friend to call on when you need it. Help might even be spiritual, learning to trust in God, to pray more, or to read more scripture.

Whatever it is that you need help in, I encourage you to reach out for it today. Call a friend, neighbor, or family member. Ask a spouse or a child to do something you might typically do. And take some time to take care of yourself today!

Have a great week!!

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